Guest Post: What to Respect When NOT Expecting

Frequently I get contacted to be involved in one project or another, whether on a large scale or smaller.  Most of the time, it doesn’t have anything to do with me or anything I’m interested in so I don’t get involved.  However, I was contacted yesterday about a new  project and I’m excited about it.  I want to introduce you to Rebekah, who is going to tell you all about it!


Hi!  My name is Rebekah and I want to hear your infertility story.  I am so thankful to Megan for inviting me to write this post!

Those of us on this ALI (Adoption/Loss/Infertility) journey know that the people around us say a lot – sometimes what they say is kind and helpful, but most of the time it is the opposite.  It’s not that these people want to be hurtful, it’s just that they’ve never stood where we do and can’t understand the true impact their words have.

Statements like, “Oh, well you must not be doing it right.  Have you tried standing on your head?” or “Well, at least you don’t have to go through the whole pregnancy process – adoption is the easy way to get your kids,” or “You can have one of my kids!” are super common.  I bet a bunch of you reading this nodded your head to at least one of them, remembering the moments when you were on the receiving end.  It’s so helpful to know that we’re not alone when we hear these!  It’s so healing to be able to laugh about them with people who get it.  And wouldn’t it be great if the people around us could be flies on the wall when we’re venting to each other?  They would learn some valuable lessons on what not to say.

That’s where my new project comes in!  I am working on a book titled “What To Respect When NOT Expecting,” and I am launching it on this week!  It’s a compilation of stories from couples going through ALI and the crazy things that people have said to them.  I chose Kickstarter not only to raise the funds to have the book printed, but more importantly to reach a more diverse group of people and gather the best, most outrageous infertility stories out there.

Here is the link:

I hope that you’ll share it!  If you have stories you would like to share with me, I would be so thrilled to hear them.  You can contact me through the website at

Thanks for your time.  And thanks again to Megan for the opportunity!

Congratulations Rebekah on your project and we’ll be looking for updates in the future!!



  1. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You! – For this post AND for the video that I just watched about umpteen times (and cried, thankyouverymuch) I N-E-E-D to be a part of this project. Thank you for the invitation, and I hope that maybe my story will touch as many people as your video and post did me tonight. Here is to hoping, helping and healing!!!

    • Hi Casey,
      Thank you for coming by! I’m so glad that we have been able to touch your heart. I bet Rebekah’s project is going to be amazing and I’m looking forward to reading the book once she’s able to write it! Let me know if I can help you in any way. I’m not an expert, but I’ve been dealing with infertility for a very.long.time. (((HUGS)))

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